āI am 2. I am not terribleā¦I am frustrated. I am nervous, stressed out, overwhelmed, and confused. I need a hug.ā
From the diary of a 2-year-old:
Today I woke up and wanted to get dressed by myself but was told; āNo, we donāt have time, let me do it.ā
This made me sad.
I wanted to feed myself for breakfast but was told; āNo, youāre too messy, let me do it for you.ā
This made me feel frustrated.
I wanted to walk to the car and get in on my own but was told; āNo, we need to get going, we donāt have time. Let me do it.ā
This made me cry.
I wanted to get out of the car on my own but was told; āNo, we donāt have time, let me do it.ā
This made me want to run away.
Later I wanted to play with blocks but was told; āNo, not like that, like thisā¦ā
I decided I didnāt want to play with blocks anymore. I wanted to play with a doll that someone else had, so I took it. I was told āNo, donāt do that! You have to share.ā
Iām not sure what I did, but it made me sad. So I cried. I wanted a hug but was told; āNo, youāre fine, go playā.
Iām being told itās time to pick up. I know this because someone keeps saying, āGo pick up your toys.ā
I am not sure what to do, I am waiting for someone to show me.
āWhat are you doing? Why are you just standing there? Pick up your toys, now!ā
I was not allowed to dress myself or move my own body to get to where I needed to go, but now I am being asked to pick things up.
Iām not sure what to do. Is someone supposed to show me how to do this? Where do I start? Where do these things go? I am hearing a lot of words but I do not understand what is being asked of me. I am scared and do not move.
I lay down on the floor and cry.
When it was time to eat I wanted to get my own food but was told; āNo, youāre too little. Let me do it.ā
This made me feel small. I tried to eat the food in front of me but I did not put it there and someone keeps saying āHere, try this, eat thisā¦ā and putting things in my face.
I didnāt want to eat anymore. This made me want to throw things and cry.
I canāt get down from the table because no one will let meā¦because Iām too small and I canāt. They keep saying I have to take a bite. This makes me cry more. Iām hungry and frustrated and sad. Iām tired and I need someone to hold me. I do not feel safe or in control. This makes me scared. I cry even more.
I am 2. No one will let me dress myself, no one will let me move my own body where it needs to go, no one will let me attend to my own needs.
However, I am expected to know how to share, ālistenā, or āwait a minuteā. I am expected to know what to say and how to act or handle my emotions. I am expected to sit still or know that if I throw something it might breakā¦.But, I do NOT know these things.
I am not allowed to practice my skills of walking, pushing, pulling, zipping, buttoning, pouring, serving, climbing, running, throwing or doing things that I know I can do. Things that interest me and make me curious, these are the things I am NOT allowed to do.
I am 2. I am not terribleā¦I am frustrated. I am nervous, stressed out, overwhelmed, and confused. I need a hug.
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